THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE.
INTRO AND THE FIRST HABIT.

Hello good people..... I have a book that I have been reading for one of my classes and its "the seven habbits of highly effective people". I have only read the introduction and the first habit. Its a book I would recommend reading. Checkout out how I feel about the book and what I have read so far. I will keep posting more information on different habits as I get through them. I hope you enjoy it as much as I am enjoying the book.

This is a very interesting book for me to read. I feel like Mr. Covey is talking to me in person. He talks about independence, dependence and interdependence in his introduction which was really a very big thing for me. The first thing he says is that we have to be independent for us to be able to be interdependent. Meaning we can work with other people and at the same time be able to make our own decisions without any problems. However this is not the most interesting thing he talks about in his introduction. He goes ahead to talk about how we see other people through what we want to see. We do not take the time to see others in their own eyes. Its most of the time, what is pleasing to us and what the society expects from us. I have to say that I have been there and done something close to judging others. We most of the time do not look for the problem within us; we try to find it in other people or blame others for our situation.
Meaning that we behave the way we do because we choose to. We make the decision to do the things we do. We choose to react the way we do, and most importantly no one can hurt us unless we give consent. It’s not about what they did to us that hurts us but the way we choose to respond.
Another important topic, which in this case is the first habit of highly effective people, is being proactive.
We need to take initiative in life and show that we are capable not only to ourselves but to others as well. To take initiative means looking for a solution to a problem and not being the problem. According to Covey, another way of being proactive is by focusing on the circle of influence. In other words, focusing on the things we can change and not those that we cannot change. We can however expand our circle of influence by the responses we choose to make in various circumstances.
The most important thing that I learnt from being proactive is the fact that we make mistakes and the responses we choose have consequences. When we make a mistake, we have to put that in our circle of concerns and learn from it. Meaning its the past, we can not change it, we have to keep moving. We should also do our best in the future not to repeat the same mistake.
I will apply the proactive part of the book in so many ways in my life. I have had events in my life where I have blamed people for certain things in my life. That is the past and I cannot change it. I can however focus on what I can change, for example the relationship with myself. Look deep within me and figure out who I am and then in return that will reflect in what I do and to others as well. In the future, as I go through my career as a journalist and all the other roles I will assume, I want to let people be who they are. I would like to be the best leader I can be and the first way to doing so is by understanding self, and the positive energy will be reflected on what I do. Eventually everyone I will be working with will feel the energy. In other words, the biggest lesson of the day for me is to be independent, meaning that I can initiate and be confident in my ideas. I hope we can all learn from this and do out best to know ourselves before we can try to understand others. Look within yourself and search yourself..... you will be amazed what you will find out.. Good luck everyone..